-Soren Kierkegaard
From our degree choices (what do
you do with a BA (hons) in Performing Arts??!) which seemed so important at the
time, we make some big decisions without really knowing the ways of the world
or who we are going to be. People, events and experience help to shape who we
are and that person is so very different to our 18 year old selves. We chose, at such a young age, career paths
that stay with us for years into our future. It can be hard not to think how
things would be different had we not chosen another career path. Is the grass
greener on the other side? Should we risk it or is a bad day and we are needing
another challenge?
What interesting is that our male
counter parts appear to be able to walk away from relationships/jobs/ decisons
without a thought and move on. Women on the other hand need to have learnt
something. How many times have we sat with the girls, over copious amounts of
wine, wondering, pondering the greater meaning of things and the decisions we
have made. From jobs, to shoes to men to diets, we are over run with choice and
consumed by the option we didn’t take.
The old proverb tells us to never
regret a decision you have made because at one point it was something you
wanted so much. So maybe you feel it was a bad choice, maybe you would do it
all so differently next time and sometimes you wonder when lady luck will ever
show her face, but that’s life. It will always kick you down, there will always
be choices and decisions for us to make (many people have fought for us to be
able to do that!) and there is nothing we can do to change what life wants from
us. It’s a wild and exciting ride. Nothing can stop the scary highs or the
(sometimes never ending) lows but what actually matters, what life is really
about is the people who are there with you through those highs and lows. No one
expects them to make it better or take away the stress or pain but they are
there none the less holding your hand, walking in your 6 inch heels with you, offering
support and kindness when we need it most.
I learnt many years ago that some
times to get from A to B we have to go via many other letters in the alphabet.
So as I look back and reflect on the decisions I have made (surprise surprise!)
there are very few I regret. I have (and very much continue) to live, laugh,
love, be spontaneous and follow my dreams with my friends and family by my
side. Maybe I should have left dead relationships sooner, maybe I should have
believed in myself more and maybe I should have not been so naïve at times but
then if I hadn’t made these mistakes would I be who I am now? Sorry fella’s, I
think us ladies are on to something here, you live, you learn…….! xX
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