Women should be two things, classy and fabulous.........

Surviving a break up in style is a mission that we are all on at some point. Sometimes it is totally our choice and sometimes it’s the path we are pushed down but either way learning to do it in style is an essential life skill. The thing is, being totally honest, it is a hard challenge to walk to moral high ground, let alone do it in five inch heels, but walk it we should and to do with style is a must. We have all been there, when a relationship ends and your emotions decide it is time to take some time out to ride an emotional roller coaster. Irrelevant of who ended it, the forth coming weeks are going to be somewhat interesting emotionally and physically. As human beings we have around 3000 thoughts a day and for a while most of them will be hurt / anger/ sadness filled ones but there will come a time when the past won’t even feature in one of them. So ladies grab your tissues, delete his number and be kind to yourself ...........

Have you time and watch a film – Funny and/or feel good are the way to go. Recommended viewing for those who are feeling a little emotionally raw include Eat, Love, Pray (be warned you will want to grab your passport, pack your bags and head off into a beautiful sunset asap), Sex and the City (hell, if Carrie can be stood up at New York Central Library in Vivienne Westwood, it can happen to any of us. She remained stylish and classy, watch and learn) and He’s Just Not That In To You (harsh but truthful lessons to be learnt, view it as a future prevention method). Simply put the DVD in, switch off your phone, grab a duvet, make a cuppa and get ready to feel better.

Do not, under any circumstance, watch The Break Up (are you insane?! Far too real and raw at this time), Disney’s Up (after the first 15 minutes you will inconsolable. Grown men have been known to cry at this and a word of warning from personal experience do not watch on a flight to New York, in full view of random strangers, slightly awkward) and Blue Valentine (heart breakingly sad, tear inducing and scarily relatable. However this is a little softened by the presence of the lovely Ryan Gosling, but still should probably be saved until you are feeling a little less delicate).

Keep in line with social etiquette – This is hugely important one to adhere to. Yes of course you are very hurt by his lies / cheating / vulgar/ draining/ demanding behaviour and yes you have every right to want to stamp on his head with a stiletto. But it is not dignified or respectful yourself or to what you had to be running around town calling him every name under the sun as tempting as that might be. This is what your house is for, those wonderful four walls will listen and never repeat you wails of ‘how dare he?’, unlike your local gossip girls. Ditto goes for his new girlfriend, yes everyone can see her bum is clearly twice the size of yours, yes we can all see her behaviour is cheap, yes its well known she is clearly desperate and/or pathetic to be mopping up your discarded emotional rubbish (even if his friends are laughing at that too) and yes it is very clear she has no style, but whatever you do, don’t join in. You will only come across as bitter and upset, even if you (and the world) know that what you think is just the simple truth. Do not sink to that level under any circumstances. Say nothing, not a peep. Instead, and this can be the hardest part, take a deep breath, slap on your lippy (age old advise from the mother ship, always given in the time of crisis), grab your gorgeous girls and in your highest heels walk the moral high ground.

You Are What You Eat – As tempting as it is to sob into a giant family size pizza, wipe your tears on Green & Blacks finest and consume the vino at a rate that would make a rugby boy blush, feeling fat on top of everything else is not the way forward. As the calorific high wears off you will just be left feeling a million times worse. So before your cellulite starts laughing at you, grab the carrot sticks, diet coke and your running shoes. Buy new clothes, new shoes, new makeup and feel fabulous about you. After all when you hit the town with the girls you want to look your best for any future prince charmings.  

Coco Chanel famously once said – ‘Women should be two things, classy and fabulous.’ Wise words from the twentieth century’s most iconic and stylish woman, and ones we should, as adults, live by. Of course we will fall apart, cry, get drunk and feel eternally grateful for our beautiful friends for the endless chats and texts of support. We will feel regret, sadness and wish we could turn back time, but this needs to be done in a private not on every social network site we can get on. So keep your heels and standards high as you take the moral high ground, what we leave behind is nothing compared to what’s ahead of us xX