Heart breaker/ Rule maker........

Ladies imagine the senario - your on a hot date. Maybe your fourth or fifth with the most gorgeous person you have seen this side of your twenties. He is dressed perfectly, complete with sexy aftershave, clean shoes and not too much hair gel. Conversation and jokes are flowing better than the wine and you really couldn't be happier. Perfect evening and perfect company you would think right? But it's around this time one of you (and it really can be either of you!) brings up the subject of 'where this is going'. If its us ladies we look clingy and needy, if it's one of you blokes we are left reaching for another large glass of vino. It's that awkward moment where you have to either bail or actually open up and say how you feel. Historically I have always gone for the bail...... So once that conversation has been started, where does it go? Will you feel the same? Do you want the same thing? Are you on the same page? The options are endless and it can be a total mind field. How do you say what you want, if it's different to him? What do you do if you want different things? End it there and then? Or ride it out hoping somewhere you will meet in the middle?  Then there is the words that are used and the way in which they are interpreted. This is made ten times harder when your a southerner in the north. Even if people can understand your accent, are you meaning the same thing?! Suddenly black and white turns into a sludgy shade of grey. What was a romantic dinner becomes a T's and C's meeting of 'seeing each other' and a mine field of does and don'ts. So as you sit there with your heart sinking lower than this seasons Chanel hemlines, wondering what to say, here is some advice (from experience) on what not to say ...... The Prince Charming - so he politely and eloquently tells you how he feels. He explains honestly that he has felt this way for some time and wants to be with you, he then goes on to ask how you feel and what you want. Mumbling 'err the same as you' whilst staring at the coffee table, unable to meet his stare and wondering if you remembered to sky + TOWIE is not smooth ladies!  The Over Emotional Tears - You come stumbling in together after a fantastic night in town, naturally you beat him at every drinking game and still managed to walk (not stumble!) home with your lippy still in your lips not your cheeks. As you giggle and chatter into the bedroom the alcohol takes over and he looks at you teary eyed as he opens his (very drunken) heart and tell you how he feels. To which you, also very drunk and teary eyed now admit to feeling the same (regardless of whether you do or don't) which is fine until you wake up the next morning. Awkward.com.  The Big Gesture- Ok so Mr Fit tells you how he feels and he ends the conversation with 'I love you'. Surprised ladies, maybe. A little rushed and confused definitely. But ladies what ever you do and no matter how surprised you are, do not, ever, turn round and say 'you what?! F*** off!'. That ladies is an epic fail!!  Being honest, in my experience rarely are any two people totally on the same page at the same time and it takes a lot of work to get there. It takes honesty and time to build up the trust to open up and say what you want from the person you care about. It also takes a lot of work to keep on the same page. And maybe that's trick - to stay on the same page? And maybe that's a blog for another day........ xX